When most people think of anger, they imagine a person shouting and fist slamming. This does happen and is often part of the anger response but anger is not always so stereotypical openly aggressive. Some people suppress their anger while others are passive aggressive. We use the term anger to describe a number of expressions including, blowing off some steam, frustration, irritability, fretting, and annoyance. People feel angry because something of value and what is important to them is being neglected, threatened or violated. Anger thrives on unmet needs. When our essential needs is not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. A common thread is a sense that there is a lack of respect. Our basic needs, personal worth, and basic convictions are not being met or validated.
No human was created to be controlled by another. Having your feelings controlled causes anger. This is a result from relationships where performance is a priority, being different is threatening, or where obligation is perceived as mandatory. In these “it’s my way or the highway” there is little cooperation and compromise. Often anger is a result of poor choices we have made. We make unwise decisions concerning relationships, morality, health, substance abuse, and overemphasis on materialism. Pride influences anger. Prideful people are very self-absorbed and think very highly of themselves. Pride is spiritual disease because it reflects sinful nature.
Anger is manifested in several ways such as ridicule, criticism, or withdrawal. Loneliness makes us vulnerable to anger. Loneliness is the emotion of isolation. People thrive when in a loving and supportive community. We experience loneliness when we neglect relationships or when we fail to state our own needs successfully. When we feel less than or inferior than others, might lead us to anger. God created us in our own unique way. We are not to compare ourselves to anyone or to judge. God made people with their own personal worth and we all have a tendency to sin.
Managing anger is an ongoing challenge. There are times when anger is incorrectly associated with trivial matters. There are times when anger is associated with legitimate concerns, but is managed irresponsibly. Balance is found when anger is linked to a reasonable issue and is communicated in a proper manner. By making anger management a matter of choice, you are saying “Although my world may not be stable, I can be stable in it.” You are utilizing real spiritual strength. If anger is defined as preserving personal worth, needs, and convictions, assertive anger means this preservation is accomplished while considering the needs and feelings of others. As you survey your current relationships, what are some legitimate needs you might openly address? As you communicate your needs and convictions be sure your behavior is assertive rather than aggressive. This form of anger can actually help relationships to grow. It represents a mark of personal maturity and stability.
Anger can linger if our attempts are not from the heart. Despite the pain of the past, we must learn to forgive and let things go. Accept your inability to completely control circumstances and you recognize your personal limits. Ultimately, anger can only be managed as we come to terms with God by submitting to Him and His will for our lives. As we do, God works out our selfishness and sense of entitlement and replaces it with a genuine love and concern for others. Are you controlling your anger or is your anger controlling you?
No human was created to be controlled by another. Having your feelings controlled causes anger. This is a result from relationships where performance is a priority, being different is threatening, or where obligation is perceived as mandatory. In these “it’s my way or the highway” there is little cooperation and compromise. Often anger is a result of poor choices we have made. We make unwise decisions concerning relationships, morality, health, substance abuse, and overemphasis on materialism. Pride influences anger. Prideful people are very self-absorbed and think very highly of themselves. Pride is spiritual disease because it reflects sinful nature.
Anger is manifested in several ways such as ridicule, criticism, or withdrawal. Loneliness makes us vulnerable to anger. Loneliness is the emotion of isolation. People thrive when in a loving and supportive community. We experience loneliness when we neglect relationships or when we fail to state our own needs successfully. When we feel less than or inferior than others, might lead us to anger. God created us in our own unique way. We are not to compare ourselves to anyone or to judge. God made people with their own personal worth and we all have a tendency to sin.
Managing anger is an ongoing challenge. There are times when anger is incorrectly associated with trivial matters. There are times when anger is associated with legitimate concerns, but is managed irresponsibly. Balance is found when anger is linked to a reasonable issue and is communicated in a proper manner. By making anger management a matter of choice, you are saying “Although my world may not be stable, I can be stable in it.” You are utilizing real spiritual strength. If anger is defined as preserving personal worth, needs, and convictions, assertive anger means this preservation is accomplished while considering the needs and feelings of others. As you survey your current relationships, what are some legitimate needs you might openly address? As you communicate your needs and convictions be sure your behavior is assertive rather than aggressive. This form of anger can actually help relationships to grow. It represents a mark of personal maturity and stability.
Anger can linger if our attempts are not from the heart. Despite the pain of the past, we must learn to forgive and let things go. Accept your inability to completely control circumstances and you recognize your personal limits. Ultimately, anger can only be managed as we come to terms with God by submitting to Him and His will for our lives. As we do, God works out our selfishness and sense of entitlement and replaces it with a genuine love and concern for others. Are you controlling your anger or is your anger controlling you?
People feel angry because something of value and what is important to them is being neglected, threatened or violated. Anger thrives on unmet needs. When our essential needs is not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. A common thread is a sense that there is a lack of respect. Our basic needs, personal worth, and basic convictions are not being met or validated.
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